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This year was is my first year in highschool. I have two best friends. One who went to a different highschool and one who is a year younger than me (8th grade). Their names are Erin and Laura.
Recently Laura (8th grader) has been telling me she misses me. I do too, but she seems to be struggling. The other day I went to go see her play volleyball. This is her FIRST year playing, it isnt like she is BAD, but she still needs practice. There are some girls in her class who are on her team. When she missed the ball ONCE, they started laughing at her. I couldnt believe the nerve of them. Well I forgot about them for awhile, but then today Laura told me that one of the girls told her it was ALL Laura's fault they lost the game. I was SO MAD! And they treat her like she is a piece of crap. They STEP all over her. I am not there to stick up for her anymore. What should I do? What should I tell her? She is miserable because she only has ONE friend at her school, and the rest treat her badly because she isnt skinny, or SUPERMODEL pretty. But they dont see the real her! It just frustrates me...help?
This is Laura!
wow i know its gotta be hard and i dont really know what to say, but she needs to be strong and determined, she needs to try her hardest to make friends, and obviously she is good if she made the team, so the girls laughing at her are either 1 jealous, 2 they got nothing better to do or 3 they feel better making other people feel bad. sounds like she is really tense and just needs to loosen up. people are always going to talk about you and there is nothing you can do about it. its apart of growing up, they say the drama ends after high school....no it dont it continues!! just tell her to stay strong and even though you guys arent together your only a phone call away!!
I'm really sorry about that. That is the main reason I left regular school. Girls always saying you need to be JUST like them to fit in. And if you don't, then you aren't treated very nicely. I've got no clue what the world is coming to. There's so much pressure to be skinny, and pretty. All you have to do is tell your friend to believe in herself. Don't listen to anyone but yourself. QUOTE : Keep your head up, they're always trying to bring you down beautiful. ~ Miley Cyrus Do what you love, and do it the way you feel is right. (: Laura is so pretty, and she looks extremly nice! She needs to start coming on JBF, because us fans always make everyone feel better(:
School… fun times.
This is a tricky situation, you want to be there to stick up for your friend but, at the same time, you also need to let her stand up for herself.
If she is getting upset about what the girls on the volleyball team have said, then they have won. They have achieved what they wanted to do and that is to obviously make her upset. Don’t let them win Laura! The best thing to do in this situation is to just ignore them. She needs to show them that their nasty comments don’t affect her and in time they will leave her alone because they are not getting the negative reaction they were hoping for. She should focus all her energy and attention into playing a good game of volleyball and having fun!
Making friends is hard, especially in school, but people who judge you on superficial things such as looks and how much you weigh are not worth being friends anyway.
At the end of the day, it’s not about how many friends you have or whether you are the most popular person in school, it’s about the quality of the friendships you already have. Tell her she is a lucky girl, it sounds like she has a great friend in you!
But if I tell the world, I'll never say enough, cos it was not said to you
